I went on an incredible journey, with an incredible couple! The journey, like the birthing of a beautiful butterfly, from its chrysalis stage to full maturity, took some time…and indeed, may still be continuing.
The following is my real-life story of the cathartic and metamorphic Feng Shui journey of Dan and Helena Sanderson (not their real names), to whom I owe so much.
THE METAMORPHOSIS – Continued
“What the caterpillar calls the end the rest of the world calls a butterfly.” ~ Lao Tzu
On March 13, 2004, we began another phase of our Feng Shui journey. I intuitively knew this one would be difficult, as it indeed proved to be. I explained to Dan and Helena how there are layers upon layers in Feng Shui and how we would be looking at Feng Shui in a different way today. I was planning to go deeper with them, adding astrology, Ming Gua numbers, and some element work. I also planned to tackle the issue of the extreme clutter in the children’s rooms, a touchy subject, I was sure.
I eased into this appointment by re-explaining the basic Feng Shui principles. I could tell they felt this was ‘old hat’, and that they were thinking, “Get on with it, alright, already!” After all, wasn’t this the couple that had explained Feng Shui to their parents and friends after working with Feng Shui principles themselves after our last appointment?
I continued anyway, explaining how when we go deeper, sometimes it opens up things in our lives that we need to be ready for. I suggested that if anything became uncomfortable to just say so and that we could explore those areas in other ways. They were eager, however, and were not dissuaded from proceeding on the journey.
I began with their living room again. They had basically, but not intentionally, undone what we had created during the last appointment. They had moved the sofa into the middle of the room, with its back to the door, and had moved their recliner back against the window. In order for us to talk (I was sitting in the recliner), they had to turn their backs to face me. It was very awkward and uncomfortable. They quickly saw that this arrangement wasn’t working, not physically, nor energetically.
We moved on to the front entry, where we discussed the front door as the ‘mouth of chi’ and how chi likes the front door to be very inviting and welcoming, like a special guest. So they realized that they needed to make a few changes there, because they had dead plants by the entry, piles of firewood, and lots of children’s toys. We also talked about their best directions, their Ming Gua numbers, and the elements. The charts in the addendum explains what I told them.
We proceeded to the children’s bedrooms to take a look at the rooms in terms of the command positions and the children’s best directions. Candice, the youngest daughter, had her bed in the doorway. (On my first visit, this was not the case. I’m not sure why it got changed.) Not only was the bed in the doorway, it was not in the right direction for her. I suggested placing it in her most favorable direction, and on an angle to create aesthetic interest.
Candice is primarily water, astrologically speaking. Her deep, sensitive soul seemed to require more order and stillness, but her room was busy, cluttered, with far too many “things”. The floor on all three occasions was filled with ‘stuff’. We talked about her spiritual need for stillness and order.
Rhys, who is also a very sensitive child, had a better bed placement, however her room was still quite cluttered. She had tons of toys in her rooms, but nothing to stimulate her “air”, astrologically speaking. I suggested that she have some more books in her room, to appeal to her mental nature and to foster more of an interest in learning.
James and Cash’s room presented a myriad of problems. Architecturally, their bedroom was one large room, created from a garage. Not only did they sleep in this area, but they also played here in a playroom created out of the space. There were two architecturally designed entries into this space, but one of them was blocked. On the second appointment, they had unblocked it, and recreated the doorway. In addition, between our first and second appointments, the Sanderson’s rearranged the boy’s rooms, providing space for each boy to have his own individual cubicle to sleep in. Though the cubicles were not very private (due to the lack of real walls), it was a start. I suggested they provide walls for more of a sense of privacy by using curtains, or by the actual building of walls.
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In this area, the Sanderson’s also had erected a combined computer-play area for the boys. I was concerned about the computer energy (there were two), but my gauss meter did not indicate excess energy. I still felt this was too much for a sleeping area and suggested fuzz busters.
In looking at the best directions for the boys, it was necessary to move their beds, or at least the placement of their pillows. They had each assumed a position that was not the best direction for them. I also suggested moving the entry way into James’s cubicle to another side, so that he could place his head in a different direction without the bed being in the entryway.
Each of the boys had beds with drawers underneath. The beds were expensive and the drawers served a very utilitarian purpose. After ascertaining that the drawers only contained clothes, I bypassed mentioning the problem of having items under the bed. However, we did discuss the effect of clutter and disorganization on impressionable, young children growing up in their formative years, and their need for a model of organization.
During this discussion, I noticed that the Sanderson’s had painted the boy’s room “red”. Whereas, it was a beautiful, soft shade of pinkish-red, I felt it might be problematic for two already ADD boys. Because Helena really seemed disappointed and attached to the color, I suggested that they could probably get around this by painting the actual sleeping areas a more soothing, yin color.
This appointment was difficult. Though the Sanderson’s listened, this appointment did not flow as easily as had the first appointment. I felt I was hitting a lot of resistance, and was not sure whether I should continue or stop. Because they continued to ask questions about what I was saying, I answered them cautiously. When I left this appointment, I felt uneasy. It was not with the cathartic feeling of the last appointment. Something felt undone about this one, but I had given my all. I did not know at the time that we had very definitely penetrated deeper into their ‘psychological space’. This appointment had hit home, and how!
THE METAMORPHOSIS continues – Metamorphosis Unveiled!